Cycles of Hurt
▻http://guelphpeak.org/feature/2014/03/cycles-of-hurt
How have generations of hurt affected our friendships today? Our author explores.
I’m kicking rocks down the train tracks, mad at myself and feeling terrible for having just yelled at my friend, who was balancing along the rail nearby. They are my best buddy and lover, and mostly we are really good to each other and work hard to break unhealthy dynamics in our lives. So what’s going on with me right now? Why did I just yell at them? And where does this scary, hopeless feeling come from? It worries me deeply that, despite all we try and how hard we work to break away from the unhealthy things we’ve learned from the media or our parents about what relationships are ‘supposed’ to be like, we somehow repeat these ugly cycles in our relationships.