• YouTube started as an online dating site - CNET
    https://www.cnet.com/news/youtube-started-as-an-online-dating-site

    Long before Tinder made swiping a thing for matchmaking apps, there was a little-known video site trying to play cupid to the Internet generation: YouTube.

    That’s not exactly what comes to mind when you think of the world’s largest video site, which welcomes a billion visitors a month. But that’s how the YouTube, which Google bought in 2006 for $1.6 billion, got its start, said co-founder Steve Chen.

    “We always thought there was something with video there, but what would be the actual practical application?” Chen said Monday at the South by Southwest tech, film and music conference in Austin, Texas. “We thought dating would be the obvious choice.”

    The idea was for single people to make videos introducing themselves and saying what they were looking for, said Chen. After five days no one had uploaded a single video, so he and the other co-founders, Chad Hurley and Jawed Karim, reconsidered.

    #YouTube #Histoire_numérique #Dating

  • Bond Touch Bracelets and the New Frontiers of Digital Dating | The New Yorker
    https://www.newyorker.com/culture/culture-desk/bond-touch-bracelets-and-the-new-frontiers-of-digital-dating

    Few things feel as fraught, in the modern age, as the long-distance relationship. The hazards of digital romance have been well chronicled, perhaps most prominently in the documentary and subsequent TV series “Catfish,” which exposed viewers to a new and expansive genre of horror. To “catfish” someone, in common parlance, is to meet a person online through dating apps, social-media sites, or chat rooms, and to seduce them using fake photos and fictional biographical details. On the reality-TV version of “Catfish,” lovesick victims confront those who deceived them, in grim, emotional scenes of revelation and heartbreak. Throw teens into the mix, and the narrative can turn even more ghastly. One thinks of the tabloid story of Michelle Carter and her boyfriend, Conrad Roy III, two teen-agers whose relationship developed mostly over text and Facebook message. In 2017, Carter was convicted of involuntary manslaughter for encouraging Roy to kill himself—even though the pair had met only a handful of times. Messages between the couple revealed the kind of twisted emotional dynamic that can emerge in the absence of physical proximity.

    Despite these stories, digital-first (and digital-only) relationships continue to thrive. With online dating now a fact of life, a new bogeyman, virtual-reality dating, has taken its place, threatening to cut the final cord between romance and the real world. The platform VRLFP—Virtual Reality Looking For Partner—advertises itself as the perfect solution for daters who’d rather not deal with the hassles of Tinder flirting or late-night bar crawls. (“Grab a coffee, visit an amusement park, or go to the moon without leaving your home and without spending a dime,” the VRLFP site reads. “VR makes long-distance relationships work.”) This is to say nothing of the companies designing humanoid sex robots, or the scientists designing phone cases that feel like human flesh.

    Perhaps the most innocuous entry in the digital-dating marketplace is a new product called Bond Touch, a set of electronic bracelets meant for long-distance daters. (Shawn Mendes and Camila Cabello, one of the most P.D.A.-fluent couples of our time, were recently spotted wearing the bracelets.) Unlike the cold fantasias of VR courtship, Bond Touch bracelets are fundamentally wholesome, and they reduce long-distance relationships to a series of mundane concerns. How can you sustain a healthy amount of communication with a long-distance partner? How can you feel close to someone who’s physically distant? And how do you simulate the wordless gestures of affection that account for so much of personal connection? Created in Silicon Valley by a developer named Christoph Dressel—who is also the C.O.O. of an environmentally minded technology firm called Impossible—the bracelets are slim, chic devices that resemble Fitbits. By wearing one, a person can send a tap that generates a light vibration and a colored blink on the screen of a partner’s bracelet. The bracelets are also linked through an app that provides information about a partner’s weather and time zone, but their primary function is to embody presence. Like Facebook’s early “Poke” feature, they impart the same message as a shoulder squeeze or a gaze across the room at a party: “I’m here, and I’m thinking about you.”

    In theory, the bracelets could service any form of long-distance relationship—military members and their families, partners separated by jobs or school, siblings living in different cities—but they seem to be most popular among teen-agers who’ve forged romantic relationships online. Bond Touch is a hot topic of discussion in certain corners of YouTube and Reddit, where users provide excessively detailed reviews of their bracelet-wearing experience. These users seem less concerned with simulating touch or affection than with communicating when they don’t have access to their phone, namely during class or at part-time jobs. They often develop Morse-code-like systems to lend layers of meaning to their taps. “When I really want his attention, I just send a very long one, and then he’s, like, ‘What do you want?’ . . . Three taps means ‘I love you,’ ” one YouTuber, HeyItsTay, explains, in a video that’s garnered over 1.8 million views. Safety is also a chief concern: almost all of the vloggers explain that Bond Touch is an effective way of letting someone know that you’re O.K., even if you’re not responding to text messages or Instagram DMs.

    Something like a Bond Touch bracelet ostensibly solves a communication problem, but it also creates one—the problem of over-availability, in which no one can be unreachable and no sentiment goes unexpressed. (One can imagine the anxieties that might arise from a set of unanswered taps, and the bracelets have already inspired plenty of off-label uses. “Great way for cheating in class,” one user commented on HeyItsTay’s Bond Touch video.) Not all technology is corrosive, of course, but there is something disheartening about a relationship wherein digital bracelets are meant to replace the rhythms of conversation and the ebbs and flows of emotional connection. The problem has less to do with the bracelets themselves than with the trend that they advance. In lieu of facetime, we seem willing to accept even the most basic forms of emotional stimulus, no matter how paltry a substitute they present.

    Reading about Bond Touch, an episode of the 2019 breakout comedy “PEN15” came to mind. The show is set in the era of the dial-up connection, and at one point its main characters, the awkward middle schoolers Anna and Maya, experiment with AOL Instant Messenger. Maya meets a guy named “Flymiamibro22” in a chat room, and their conversation quickly sparks an infatuation—and, eventually, something resembling love. “I love you more than I love my own DAD!” Maya tells Flymiamibro22 in a violent flurry of messages. Flymiamibro22 is a self-described “gym rat,” but in reality he’s one of Maya’s classmates and friends, Sam, posing online as an older guy. At the peak of her obsession, Maya begs her crush to meet her in person, and they arrange a date at a local bowling alley. FlyMiamiBro never materializes, but Sam reveals his true identity soon after, at a school dance. This admission produces a rush of fury and humiliation. But it also, finally, leads to catharsis, the growth and wisdom that flows from a confrontation with reality. That sort of confrontation seems increasingly avoidable today.

    Carrie Battan began contributing to The New Yorker in 2015 and became a staff writer in 2018.

    #Pratiques_numériques #Sites_rencontre #Dating #Bracelet #Culture_numérique

  • Everipedia Culture Roundup #13 : Factual Coverage
    https://hackernoon.com/everipedia-culture-roundup-13-factual-coverage-db03d0db07c3?source=rss--

    Covering news, pop culture, and #media should be a straight-forward thing one should think, but today it’s hard to get a sense of what is true and false. On this week’s edition of Everipedia Culture Roundup, we recognize people that report the #facts. Hassan Bargathi was the founder of the popular culture staple Only Hip-Hop Facts. Christie Smythe is writing a book that is an expansion on the biggest story she ever reported, the arrest of Martin Shkreli. Armin van Bitcoin isn’t a journalist by any means, but he truthfully shares his opinion on cryptocurrency and trading to his tens of thousands of followers on Twitter. Marko Jukic is using the scientific method to improve #language-learning techniques in order to increase the success rate of fluency. And Muzmatch is the honest dating app (...)

    #dating-app #everipedia-partnership

  • Blind date: ‘I left my knickers at a house party we crashed’ | Life and style | The Guardian

    https://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2019/jan/12/blind-date-joanne-morgan

    First impressions?
    Cute, chatty and early.

    What did you talk about?
    I can’t really remember much after four negronis and wine but: books, scumbag Tories, coming out.

    Any awkward moments?
    Probably when we got kicked out of the house party we crashed. And leaving my knickers behind. I think I also fell over at some point.

    #dating #sites_de_rencontre

  • The Future Potential of #dating Using #blockchain Technology
    https://hackernoon.com/the-future-potential-of-dating-using-blockchain-technology-21a27571de16?

    An Online Dating Market Outlook with LoveBlockThe Rise of the Online Dating IndustryMatchmaking is one of the world’s oldest professions. From the days of ancient China when swallows were used to decide a suitable match and the Biblical stories of the camel test to the wacky scientific methods of the 1920’s and then onto the online world of today.Consequently, it is no surprise that the business is booming with the many thousands of apps and websites available. In fact, the dating sector is now one of the fastest evolving industries on the planet and with record numbers of singles turning to the Internet to find every kind of relationship imaginable, there shows no signs of it slowing down.Young adults are leading the surge in online dating, with the greatest usage among 18–24-year-olds. (...)

    #online-dating #blockchain-dating #dating-using-blockchain

  • How #blockchain can transform the world (part 1)
    https://hackernoon.com/how-blockchain-can-transform-the-world-part-1-bff2ce1a05b8?source=rss---

    “Bitcoin, #ethereum,altcoins, ICO’s, moon, tokens, miners, state regulation etc”Too many buzz words.We got really entertained in the last 1 year but we still don’t understand how they matter to us in the long run and how they can transform the world.Definitions:Blockchain:(wiki)Blockchain was invented by Satoshi Nakamoto in 2008 to serve as the public transaction ledger of the bitcoin.It is a continuously growing list of records, called blocks, which are linked and secured using cryptography. Each block typically contains a cryptographic hash of the previous block, a timestamp, and transaction data. By design, a blockchain is resistant to modification of the data“Blockchains are trust machines”The invention of the blockchain for #bitcoin made it the first digital currency to solve the (...)

    #dating #gaming

  • How to Build a #dating App? An Ultimate Guide on Dating Mobile App
    https://hackernoon.com/how-to-build-a-dating-app-an-ultimate-guide-on-dating-mobile-app-aaa6964

    With over 27% of committed relationships starting via the internet, online dating is no longer a taboo.It is estimated that there are over 20 million matches on dating apps and websites worldwide, that comes down to approximately 40 million users.India is the 9th largest market for online dating users.With the fast-food economy and increased internet penetration, these numbers are going to increase multi-fold.Image SourceIt is predicted that by 2031, at least 50% of married couples would’ve met online. The average online dating service user spends $243 annually.Computers are now going instinct and mobiles are definitely the future. 48% of users access dating services via their smartphones.With Reliance Jio, smartphone and the 4G internet have become more readily available boosting up (...)

    #dating-tips #dating-app

  • Avec « Dating », Facebook veut encourager les « relations durables »
    https://usbeketrica.com/article/avec-dating-facebook-veut-encourager-les-relations-durables

    Mardi 1er mai, à l’occasion de la conférence annuelle F8, Mark Zuckerberg, le patron de Facebook, a annoncé le déploiement prochain d’une fonctionnalité de « dating ». L’objectif ? « Rapprocher le monde » (« Bringing the world closer » en version originale), et surtout oublier les scandales à répétition. L’appétit des géants a ceci de particulier qu’il est sans limite. Après les messageries privées, le partage de photos, les petits annonces ou la réalité virtuelle, l’ogre Facebook s’attaque à ce qui lui (...)

    #Facebook #données #BigData #domination #Dating #Match #Meetic #Tinder

  • Why do we actually hate Tinder?
    https://hackernoon.com/why-do-we-actually-hate-tinder-7df67485b812?source=rss----3a8144eabfe3--

    Photo by Andrew Guan on UnsplashWe love to hate Tinder. Its an app many try to avoid, download in a moment of loneliness, and delete in disgust soon after. We question why we use these apps in the first place and why we can’t seem to connect in person. But do we adequately question why we hate it?A few months ago, my roommates and I all sat in our living room. One of them hadn’t been on a date in a while and contemplated downloading Tinder along with the suite of #dating apps #millennials use. I supported her decision, but both her and my other roommate hemmed and hawed.“I just hate the dating apps.”“They are so many creeps.”“I just wish I could meet people in real life.”These were the themes I remember hearing, and not only in this conversation. These themes crop up every day amongst so many of us (...)

    #self-improvement #tech

  • Es ist kompliziert: Bitte nicht so ein Sunshine85 (http://www.zeit....
    https://diasp.eu/p/5876858

    Es ist kompliziert: Bitte nicht so ein Sunshine85

    Als Frau Mitte 30 hat man es nicht leicht, den Mann fürs Leben zu finden. Sex hingegen – kein Problem. Meistens. Unsere neue Singlekolumne erzählt vom Großstadt-Dating.

    #sunshine85 #frau #mitte #mann #leben #sex #problem #singlekolumne #großstadt-dating #großstadt #dating #großstadtdating #news #bot #rss

  • Hacker un site de rencontre pour contourner l’algorithme qui est censé présenter les bonnes personnes. D’où l’on remarque (rien de nouveau) que bien que ces sites roulent, et font de la pub sur leur mécanisme, leur réelle valeur ajoutée se situent dans la communauté qu’ils rassemblent ; ce qui peut amener à se demander où se situe la masse critique qui fait passer l’attrait du site de l’un à l’autre (question sans réponse).
    D’où aussi une interrogation sur le degré d’activité qui est attendu de l’usager du site (il est pourtant question de « chercher l’amour »), et surtout le niveau d’activité : le site est un produit fini, avec un système de défense qui empêche de descendre dans la structure ou même de repérer les récurrences.
    A part ça, belle ironie ou absence de retour critique, le journaliste place quand même « He’d already decided he would fill out his answers honestly—he didn’t want to build his future relationship on a foundation of computer-generated lies. »

    #dating #OKCupid #hacking #maths_appliquées

    How a Math Genius Hacked OkCupid to Find True Love - Wired Science
    http://www.wired.com/wiredscience/2014/01/how-to-hack-okcupid/all

    Chris McKinlay was folded into a cramped fifth-floor cubicle in UCLA’s math sciences building, lit by a single bulb and the glow from his monitor. It was 3 in the morn­ing, the optimal time to squeeze cycles out of the supercomputer in Colorado that he was using for his PhD dissertation. (The subject: large-scale data processing and parallel numerical methods.) While the computer chugged, he clicked open a second window to check his OkCupid inbox.

    McKinlay, a lanky 35-year-old with tousled hair, was one of about 40 million Americans looking for romance through websites like Match.com, J-Date, and e-Harmony, and he’d been searching in vain since his last breakup nine months earlier. He’d sent dozens of cutesy introductory messages to women touted as potential matches by OkCupid’s algorithms. Most were ignored; he’d gone on a total of six first dates.

    On that early morning in June 2012, his compiler crunching out machine code in one window, his forlorn dating profile sitting idle in the other, it dawned on him that he was doing it wrong. He’d been approaching online matchmaking like any other user. Instead, he realized, he should be dating like a mathematician.