• People Are Touting Their Covid Vaccines in Their Tinder Bios | Washingtonian (DC)

    Y’a un truc qui m’étonne : les vaccins, même aux US sont réservés aux personnes âgées. N’y aurait-il des lacunes dans l’affaire, et des jeunes gens bien portants, mais aisés, ne pourraient-ils pas profiter de vaccins ? Certes, on parle ici de professions « à risque », comme les pompier. Mais si la mention d’une vaccination se répand sur les sites de rencontre, cela veut certainement dire qu’on est au delà de professions spécifiées...

    Goodbye guy-with-a-fish photos, hello vaccinated first responders!
    Written by Ellen O’Brien
    | Published on February 9, 2021

    In pre-Covid times, dropping an impressive line into your dating app profile required creativity, interesting personal experiences, and humor. But these days, it only requires three words and two doses—”I am vaccinated.”

    Yep, slipped in between jokes about 5-in-1 body wash, commentary on Scrubs, and odes to home cooking, DC people on Tinder, Bumble, and Hinge are promoting their immunization status to potential matches.

    “<COVID Vaccinated>,” reads the bio of a local firefighter.

    A doctor’s bio features a photo of him in PPE and the line, “Resident in Emergency Medicine (vaccinated!)”

    A postdoctoral research fellow says he’s bored of the pandemic, “let’s do [something] fun together. #vaccinated.”

    A 20-year-old who we can only assume works in the pharmaceutical industry (other interpretations of “I sell drugs legally” are welcome) drops it in the first line of his bio: “got the vaccine :).”

    This guy decided to brag about the m.o. on Twitter:

    getting the vaccine has made me the most powerful man on DC dating apps

    — jack (@jackinthe202) January 29, 2021

    Since the first Covid-19 vaccine doses were given in December, the number of people across the country mentioning the words “vaccine” or “vaccinated” in their Bumble profiles has steadily increased, a spokesperson for the company told me in an email.

    She didn’t have specific data for the District. But here’s what I can tell you, after swiping through hundreds of profiles of straight men in and around the District. I never spotted a photo of someone actually receiving the vaccine, nor did I see any photos of someone’s personal vaccination cards. But the guys who are crowing about it have jobs that match up with those prioritized for vaccination by the District—doctors, firefighters, and public health workers.

    #Vaccination #Sites_rencontre #Bio_Tinder #Moi_Moi_Moi

  • Comment Facebook se positionne sur le marché de l’online dating

    L’application Tuned créée par Facebook encourage les couples à partager divers contenus dans un espace privé. Zucki serait-il touché par les cœurs brisés ? Qu’on se rassure, il ne perd pas le nord : les données pourront être utilisées à des fins de ciblage publicitaire.
    Entre messagerie instantanée et journal intime

    Alors que bon nombre de couples sont séparés à l’heure du confinement, Facebook dévoile sa nouvelle application de messagerie, Tuned, spécialement conçue pour eux. Développée par NPE Team, elle permet de leur offrir un espace de communication privé pour partager musique, photos, notes et messages vocaux. « Un espace privé où vous et votre moitié pouvez être vous-mêmes, être aussi décalé, idiot, ou mielleux que dans la vraie vie », explique la firme dans l’AppStore. La nouvelle application, disponible pour l’instant uniquement aux Etats-Unis, peut être utilisée même sans compte Facebook.
    Utiliser les données à des fins commerciales

    Évidemment, c’est une histoire de data plus que d’amour. Les données des utilisateurs pourront être utilisées pour de la publicité ciblée. Pour Facebook, cette application représente une opportunité : récolter des données personnelles sur un secteur qu’elle connaît mal. En effet, les tentatives de la firme pour investir le terrain amoureux se sont soldées par des échecs. Le service de rencontres Facebook Dating, dont la sortie était initialement prévue début 2020, a été retoqué par la CNIL irlandaise (DPC), faute de garanties.
    Retrouver sa côte de popularité auprès des millennials

    60% des personnes connaissant Facebook Dating ont déclaré qu’elles n’étaient pas intéressées, mais ça n’empêche pas la firme de vouloir se positionner en « match maker » sur un marché qui pèse 12 millions de dollars, rapporte Planet. Facebook cherche désespérément des solutions pour reconquérir les jeunes générations. Sa plateforme ne cesse de perdre des utilisateurs : 15 millions entre 2017 et 2019, en particulier chez les 12-34 ans.
    L’émergence des small social networks

    Un constat qui confirme la tendance des small social networks prônant des espaces sains, engageants et plus faciles à réguler. Comme Tuned, ces espaces privés ne sont pas des endroits destinés à la rencontre d’un partenaire. Face à une perte de confiance dans la protection des données personnelles de nombreux réseaux sociaux, les utilisateurs se tournent vers des espaces plus restreints, dédiés à des proches, amis, couples ou famille souhaitant communiquer au sein d’un groupe fermé. Et deux anciens de Facebook sont aussi sur le coup avec une nouvelle application lancée fin 2019, Cocoon, qui a déjà levé 3 millions de dollars.

    #Facebook #Vie_privée #Sites_rencontre #Espace_privés #Traçage_publicitaire

  • Bond Touch Bracelets and the New Frontiers of Digital Dating | The New Yorker

    Few things feel as fraught, in the modern age, as the long-distance relationship. The hazards of digital romance have been well chronicled, perhaps most prominently in the documentary and subsequent TV series “Catfish,” which exposed viewers to a new and expansive genre of horror. To “catfish” someone, in common parlance, is to meet a person online through dating apps, social-media sites, or chat rooms, and to seduce them using fake photos and fictional biographical details. On the reality-TV version of “Catfish,” lovesick victims confront those who deceived them, in grim, emotional scenes of revelation and heartbreak. Throw teens into the mix, and the narrative can turn even more ghastly. One thinks of the tabloid story of Michelle Carter and her boyfriend, Conrad Roy III, two teen-agers whose relationship developed mostly over text and Facebook message. In 2017, Carter was convicted of involuntary manslaughter for encouraging Roy to kill himself—even though the pair had met only a handful of times. Messages between the couple revealed the kind of twisted emotional dynamic that can emerge in the absence of physical proximity.

    Despite these stories, digital-first (and digital-only) relationships continue to thrive. With online dating now a fact of life, a new bogeyman, virtual-reality dating, has taken its place, threatening to cut the final cord between romance and the real world. The platform VRLFP—Virtual Reality Looking For Partner—advertises itself as the perfect solution for daters who’d rather not deal with the hassles of Tinder flirting or late-night bar crawls. (“Grab a coffee, visit an amusement park, or go to the moon without leaving your home and without spending a dime,” the VRLFP site reads. “VR makes long-distance relationships work.”) This is to say nothing of the companies designing humanoid sex robots, or the scientists designing phone cases that feel like human flesh.

    Perhaps the most innocuous entry in the digital-dating marketplace is a new product called Bond Touch, a set of electronic bracelets meant for long-distance daters. (Shawn Mendes and Camila Cabello, one of the most P.D.A.-fluent couples of our time, were recently spotted wearing the bracelets.) Unlike the cold fantasias of VR courtship, Bond Touch bracelets are fundamentally wholesome, and they reduce long-distance relationships to a series of mundane concerns. How can you sustain a healthy amount of communication with a long-distance partner? How can you feel close to someone who’s physically distant? And how do you simulate the wordless gestures of affection that account for so much of personal connection? Created in Silicon Valley by a developer named Christoph Dressel—who is also the C.O.O. of an environmentally minded technology firm called Impossible—the bracelets are slim, chic devices that resemble Fitbits. By wearing one, a person can send a tap that generates a light vibration and a colored blink on the screen of a partner’s bracelet. The bracelets are also linked through an app that provides information about a partner’s weather and time zone, but their primary function is to embody presence. Like Facebook’s early “Poke” feature, they impart the same message as a shoulder squeeze or a gaze across the room at a party: “I’m here, and I’m thinking about you.”

    In theory, the bracelets could service any form of long-distance relationship—military members and their families, partners separated by jobs or school, siblings living in different cities—but they seem to be most popular among teen-agers who’ve forged romantic relationships online. Bond Touch is a hot topic of discussion in certain corners of YouTube and Reddit, where users provide excessively detailed reviews of their bracelet-wearing experience. These users seem less concerned with simulating touch or affection than with communicating when they don’t have access to their phone, namely during class or at part-time jobs. They often develop Morse-code-like systems to lend layers of meaning to their taps. “When I really want his attention, I just send a very long one, and then he’s, like, ‘What do you want?’ . . . Three taps means ‘I love you,’ ” one YouTuber, HeyItsTay, explains, in a video that’s garnered over 1.8 million views. Safety is also a chief concern: almost all of the vloggers explain that Bond Touch is an effective way of letting someone know that you’re O.K., even if you’re not responding to text messages or Instagram DMs.

    Something like a Bond Touch bracelet ostensibly solves a communication problem, but it also creates one—the problem of over-availability, in which no one can be unreachable and no sentiment goes unexpressed. (One can imagine the anxieties that might arise from a set of unanswered taps, and the bracelets have already inspired plenty of off-label uses. “Great way for cheating in class,” one user commented on HeyItsTay’s Bond Touch video.) Not all technology is corrosive, of course, but there is something disheartening about a relationship wherein digital bracelets are meant to replace the rhythms of conversation and the ebbs and flows of emotional connection. The problem has less to do with the bracelets themselves than with the trend that they advance. In lieu of facetime, we seem willing to accept even the most basic forms of emotional stimulus, no matter how paltry a substitute they present.

    Reading about Bond Touch, an episode of the 2019 breakout comedy “PEN15” came to mind. The show is set in the era of the dial-up connection, and at one point its main characters, the awkward middle schoolers Anna and Maya, experiment with AOL Instant Messenger. Maya meets a guy named “Flymiamibro22” in a chat room, and their conversation quickly sparks an infatuation—and, eventually, something resembling love. “I love you more than I love my own DAD!” Maya tells Flymiamibro22 in a violent flurry of messages. Flymiamibro22 is a self-described “gym rat,” but in reality he’s one of Maya’s classmates and friends, Sam, posing online as an older guy. At the peak of her obsession, Maya begs her crush to meet her in person, and they arrange a date at a local bowling alley. FlyMiamiBro never materializes, but Sam reveals his true identity soon after, at a school dance. This admission produces a rush of fury and humiliation. But it also, finally, leads to catharsis, the growth and wisdom that flows from a confrontation with reality. That sort of confrontation seems increasingly avoidable today.

    Carrie Battan began contributing to The New Yorker in 2015 and became a staff writer in 2018.

    #Pratiques_numériques #Sites_rencontre #Dating #Bracelet #Culture_numérique

  • How Facebook Dating Is Different From Other Dating Apps - The Atlantic

    By all accounts, people still love using Tinder, Bumble, and other apps like them, or at least begrudgingly accept them as the modern way to find dates or partners. Last year, Tinder’s user base worldwide was estimated to be about 50 million. But when shopping through every potential date in your geographic area with little more to go on than a photo and a couple of lines of bio becomes the norm, people can feel burned-out, and long for the days of offline dating.

    Facebook, a gigantic online repository for information about nearly 3 billion people’s hobbies, social circles, family members, job and education history, and relationship history—in other words, a gigantic online repository for people’s context—appears to have been paying attention to these gripes. Facebook’s matchmaking service, called Facebook Dating, launched Thursday in the United States after debuting in 19 other countries earlier this year, and it is explicitly trying to inject some of the more human aspects back into online dating through features that mimic the ways in which people used to meet-cute before the Tinder age.

    Facebook Dating, which lives within the Facebook mobile app in a separate tab (it’s not available on the Facebook desktop site), promises to connect singles who opt into the service by algorithmically matching them according to geography and shared “interests, events, and groups”; users have the option of “unlocking” certain Facebook groups they’re part of and certain Facebook events they’ve RSVPed to in order to match with other group members or attendees. It also gives users the option of pulling biographical data from their Facebook page to populate their Facebook Dating profile: name, age, location, job title, photos.

    Within the app’s privacy settings, users can also opt in or opt out of matching with their Facebook friends’ Facebook friends. The app does not match people with their own Facebook friends, unless explicitly directed to: The “Secret Crush” feature allows users to identify up to nine of their Facebook friends as people they have a crush on, and “no one will know that you’ve entered their name,” according to Facebook’s Newsroom blog, unless your name also appears on their Secret Crush list. In that case, Facebook Dating notifies both parties. (Facebook makes no mention of what happens if two, three, or—God forbid—all nine of a person’s crushes indicate that the secret crush is reciprocated.)

    Fugère also questioned whether Facebook Dating could find success among what one would have to assume is its target market—single people in their 20s and 30s. While Facebook is aiming to re-create virtually the experience of meeting someone in person, it’s not clear whether users will want so much information transmitted online between themselves and someone they still have not actually met

    #Sites_rencontre #Facebook #Tinder

  • Défendons la sociologie menacée !

    Un « sociologue » portant une vision antifeministe

    Quelques mots sur le « sociologue ». Vous ne le connaissez sans doute pas, car il n’a jamais eu aucun échange avec la communauté académique, il s’appelle Stéphane Édouard. Pour sa défense, il proclame très fort qu’il a un DEA de sociologie, ce qui est exact. Son diplôme en poche, ne cessant de mettre en avant sa qualité de sociologue, il a monté une série de sites internet (notamment Hommes d’Influence) proposant du coaching en séduction, qui s’adressent principalement à de jeunes hommes un peu désemparés dans leurs rapports avec les femmes. Il prône notamment la réaffirmation d’une identité plus masculine, ce qui lui a permis de constituer un réservoir de fans, admiratifs de son assurance et du vernis culturel qu’il répand à tout propos. C’est sur cette base d’une identité masculine retrouvée et antiféministe qu’il participe par ailleurs à des sites radicaux d’extrême droite, tenant un blog sur Égalité et Réconciliation d’Alain Soral et un autre sur Fdesouche. En parallèle, il organise des séminaires rémunérés de coaching en séduction.

    Interrogé par le journal 20 minutes, j’ai déclaré ceci, qui a été publié : « Un coach ayant fait des études de sociologie c’est très bien, mais quand il parle de ses thèses scientifiques c’est de l’arnaque ». À mon modeste niveau, et même si je n’étais sans doute pas le meilleur représentant possible, je me suis donc retrouvé dans une situation comparable à celle d’un lanceur d’alerte, dénonçant l’usurpation du mot « science » et l’image que l’on voulait donner de la sociologie. Stéphane Edouard a déposé une plainte en diffamation contre moi. J’ai été convoqué devant un juge d’instruction, qui m’a mis en examen. Le dossier n’a pas été classé sans suite, la diffamation a été retenue, je suis donc mis en examen et en attente d’un procès au Tribunal de Grande Instance de Paris, où je risque 12 000 € d’amende, des dommages et intérêt, sans compter les honoraires d’avocat.

    #Sociologie #Extrême_droite #Sites_rencontre

  • Playing the Online Dating Game, in a Wheelchair - The New York Times

    Not one to be deterred, I persevered, downloading every possible dating app and creating accounts on various dating sites. But I became skittish about revealing my disability, because in an already shallow dating culture, I believed my wheelchair would cause most men to write me off without a second thought. So I decided to hide my disability completely. I cropped my wheelchair out of my photos. I eliminated any mention of it in my profiles. In this virtual world, I could pretend my disability didn’t exist.

    I kept up with this facade for a while, messaging matches who were none the wiser. Once I thought I’d spoken with a guy long enough to establish his interest, I’d choose a moment to strike, telling him about my disability. I’d send a long-winded explanation divulging my wheelchair use, reminding him that it didn’t make me any less of person and ending with reassurance that he could ask me questions, should he have any.

    After dropping the “wheelchair bomb,” I’d have to brace myself for their reactions, which were always a mixed bag, often ranging from indifference to ghosting. Occasionally, I’d receive an accepting response.

    Prominently in my profile, I wrote: “I’d like to be very upfront about the fact that I use a wheelchair. My disability is part of my identity and I’m a loud, proud disability rights activist, but there is so much more that defines me (you know, like the stuff I’ve got in my profile). I realize some people are hesitant to date a human who experiences the world sitting down. But I’d like to think you’ll keep reading and dive a little deeper. And you’re welcome to ask questions, should you have any.”

    Once I added that paragraph, I felt liberated, relieved that anyone I spoke to would have a clearer picture of me. There have been plenty of matches that haven’t worked out, and whether that’s actually because of my disability, I’ll never know. But I had a nearly yearlong relationship with a man I met through OKCupid, so I know it’s possible for lightning to strike again. My dating life remains a comedy of errors, and I still struggle every day with the feeling that my disability means I won’t find love, but at least I’m being true to myself. I’m putting myself out there — my whole self — and it feels good to be proud of who I am.

    #Sites_rencontre #handicap

  • First Evidence That Online Dating Is Changing the Nature of Society - MIT Technology Review

    Indeed, this has long been reflected in surveys of the way people meet their partners: through mutual friends, in bars, at work, in educational institutions, at church, through their families, and so on.

    Online dating has changed that. Today, online dating is the second most common way for heterosexual couples to meet. For homosexual couples, it is far and away the most popular.

    That has significant implications. “People who meet online tend to be complete strangers,” say Ortega and Hergovich. And when people meet in this way, it sets up social links that were previously nonexistent.

    The question that Ortega and Hergovich investigate is how this changes the racial diversity of society. “Understanding the evolution of interracial marriage is an important problem, for intermarriage is widely considered a measure of social distance in our societies,” they say.

    Next, the researchers compare the results of their models to the observed rates of interracial marriage in the U.S. This has been on the increase for some time, but the rates are still low, not least because interracial marriage was banned in some parts of the country until 1967.

    But the rate of increase changed at about the time that online dating become popular. “It is intriguing that shortly after the introduction of the first dating websites in 1995, like Match.com, the percentage of new marriages created by interracial couples increased rapidly,” say the researchers.

    The increase became steeper in the 2000s, when online dating became even more popular. Then, in 2014, the proportion of interracial marriages jumped again. “It is interesting that this increase occurs shortly after the creation of Tinder, considered the most popular online dating app,” they say.

    Tinder has some 50 million users and produces more than 12 million matches a day.

    Of course, this data doesn’t prove that online dating caused the rise in interracial marriages. But it is consistent with the hypothesis that it does.

    #Sites_rencontre #Marriage

  • La rencontre en ligne change-t-elle la nature des couples ? | InternetActu.net

    es sites de rencontre ont incontestablement changé la façon dont les couples se rencontrent (pour le meilleur ou pour le pire). Mais il se pourrait qu’ils influencent également le mariage et sa stabilité, estime une récente étude relevée par la Technology Review. Depuis le lancement de Match.com (né en 1995), OkCupid (en 2000) ou Tinder (2012)… c’est désormais plus d’un tiers des mariages qui commencerait en ligne.

    Les sites de rencontres ont changé la façon dont les gens trouvent leurs partenaires. Traditionnellement les liens faibles jouaient un rôle très important dans la rencontre de partenaires : beaucoup de couples se formaient en rencontrant des amis d’amis ou sur des lieux de loisirs (comme les bars et restaurants). Désormais, la rencontre en ligne d’inconnus, qui n’appartiennent pas à des réseaux relationnels existants, est devenue le deuxième moyen le plus commun pour se rencontrer chez les partenaires hétérosexuels (et le premier chez les partenaires homosexuels).

    « Les gens qui se rencontrent en ligne ont tendance à être de parfaits étrangers », expliquent les chercheurs responsables de l’étude, Josue Ortega de l’université d’Essex aux États-Unis et Philipp Hergovich de l’université de Vienne en Autriche, créant par là même des liens sociaux qui n’existaient pas auparavant.

    Attention cependant, comme le souligne ce très documenté article d’Alternatives Economiques, les rencontres en ligne semblent n’avoir pas d’effet positif sur l’homogamie, c’est-à-dire que « en ligne comme ailleurs, les rencontres amoureuses, loin de pouvoir être réduites à un simple marché, « font appel à des codes, des rituels et des manières de faire » qui continuent de différencier nettement les diverses catégories sociales. »

    #Sites_rencontre #Mariages

  • First Evidence That Online Dating Is Changing the Nature of Society - MIT Technology Review

    Loose ties have traditionally played a key role in meeting partners. While most people were unlikely to date one of their best friends, they were highly likely to date people who were linked with their group of friends; a friend of a friend, for example. In the language of network theory, dating partners were embedded in each other’s networks.

    Indeed, this has long been reflected in surveys of the way people meet their partners: through mutual friends, in bars, at work, in educational institutions, at church, through their families, and so on.

    Online dating has changed that. Today, online dating is the second most common way for heterosexual couples to meet. For homosexual couples, it is far and away the most popular.

    That has significant implications. “People who meet online tend to be complete strangers,” say Ortega and Hergovich. And when people meet in this way, it sets up social links that were previously nonexistent.

    The question that Ortega and Hergovich investigate is how this changes the racial diversity of society. “Understanding the evolution of interracial marriage is an important problem, for intermarriage is widely considered a measure of social distance in our societies,” they say.

    #Réseaux_sociaux #Sites_rencontre #Mariages_interraciaux

  • Belgique. Sur les campus, une campagne publicitaire invite les étudiantes à se prostituer | Courrier international

    Un site de rencontre norvégien d’un genre particulier a lancé une campagne sur le campus de plusieurs universités belges. Il s’adresse spécifiquement aux étudiantes, auxquelles il propose de rencontrer des “sugar daddies”, c’est-à-dire des hommes aisés et plus âgés, afin de subvenir à leurs besoins.

    Extraordinaire (extraordinairement honteux !) la récupération d’une revendication féministe (le mariage, c’est la prostitution légale) par le PDG du site norvégien

    De son côté, reprend Le Soir, le PDG Sigurd Vedal s’est défendu : “On ne promeut pas la prostitution, mais l’aspect financier fait partie de toute relation.”

    Heureusement qu’il y a des sociologues (des professionnels de l’excuse comme disait le regretté clown Manuel Valls)

    Le quotidien de la capitale s’est entretenu avec le sociologue Renaud Maes, qui a enquêté sur la prostitution étudiante en Belgique. Il insiste :

    Ce qui me paraît le plus important à pointer, c’est que la prostitution étudiante s’appuie sur la précarisation grandissante des étudiants. Si l’on veut réellement endiguer cette prostitution, il ne suffit pas d’empêcher que la publicité arrive aux étudiants, il faut faire en sorte qu’elle ne soit pas pertinente et il faut lutter contre la précarité !”

    #Féminisme #Prostitution_étudiante #Honte #Sites_rencontre